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How to Sleep Train your Baby with Expert and founder of Rested Mama, Happy Baby, Mica Deshaw

November 16, 2021 Jessica Gershman Season 3 Episode 11
Zen(ish) Mommy
How to Sleep Train your Baby with Expert and founder of Rested Mama, Happy Baby, Mica Deshaw
Show Notes

Here to debunk some sleep myths that may have crept into your thinking is founder of Rested Mama, Happy Baby, Mica Deshaw. She provides one-on-one sleep coaching to create unique sleep plans to maximize sleep for families in under a fortnight. Mica is a pediatric sleep coach and mother of two who gets candid on today’s episode about why there’s so much unsolicited advice around getting your baby to sleep, and why you can go to all the hospital classes twice, and still not get the guidance you need. You’ll hear how she is driven by passion and prioritizes supporting what you want and need as a mom, and why she believes that if you don’t have a problem with sleep, you shouldn’t seek out a coach. She tells us about the service she offers, educating new and expecting parents, and building personalized sleep schedules, and describes some of the topics that she covers, from sleep goals, to identifying overtiredness and under tiredness. She assures us that her baby is getting 12 hours of sleep, and jokes that she couldn’t be a sleep coach if that wasn’t the case, and emphasizes the fact that it’s natural to want to sleep! Additionally, she lets us know that you can’t spoil your baby in the first eight weeks, and all you need to do is survive, before you introduce healthy strategies as they grow. She explains why it is important to set your baby’s expectations and make sure that they fall asleep and wake up in the same place to avoid startling them. As your baby gets older, deep communication of expectations and consequences needs to be introduced, and she lets us know why, if there’s going to be a reward, it needs to be immediate. We hope you tune in to hear all this and more today! 

Key Points From This Episode:

  • Why people offer unsolicited advice to new moms: they have been through it, but might not be educated on all of it. 
  • Why you can go to all the hospital classes twice and still not get the guidance you need.
  • How Mica is driven by passion and aims to support what you want as a mom.
  • Why, if you don’t have a problem with sleep, you shouldn’t seek out a coach.
  • What Mica offers: education for new and expecting parents, building sleep schedules.
  • Topics Mica covers: what to expect from your newborn, sleep goals, how much sleep they should be getting, signs of overtiredness and under tiredness, postpartum sleep plans.
  • Why Mica couldn’t be a sleep coach if her child wasn’t getting 12 hours of sleep.
  • How her own experience with a newborn caused her to explore sleep schedules.
  • Why, even though it looks that way on social media, everyone else does not have it all.
  • The first tip: don’t feel bad about wanting sleep and be okay with knowing you deserve it.
  • Another tip: the first eight weeks, all you have to do is survive, you can’t spoil your baby.
  • Why it is important for your baby to fall asleep in the same place that they wake up.
  • The value of having a routine and a sleepytime phrase.
  • How to avoid startling your baby by creating expectations for them.
  • Deep communication of expectations and consequences with older children. 
  • Why, if there is going to be a reward, it has to be immediate.
  • Where to find Mica: on Instagram stories and live, via free consults booked in the link in her bio, and on her website.
  • The exclusive 50% discount available for Mom, Slow Down! listeners.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Mica Deshaw on LinkedIn

Rested Mama, Happy Baby

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